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Earlier this week, I do not recall if it was an unsolicited thought which surfaced from the past or whether I saw a part of the phrase in print which brought the memory back to life.

Whatever the case, my mind drifted back to a time gone by where I had the honor of coaching “<em>my gals</em>” basketball team.
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<p>Earlier this week, I do not recall if it was an unsolicited thought which surfaced from the past or whether I saw a part of the phrase in print which brought the memory back to life.</p>
<p>Whatever the case, my mind drifted back to a time gone by where I had the honor of coaching “<em>my gals</em>” basketball team.</p>
<p>From time to time I have referred to this wonderful time in my life.</p>
<p>My goal was to help them.</p>
<p>Over the years, more often than not, these young ladies helped me despite our <strong><span style="color: #0000ff;"><a style="color: #0000ff;" href="http://brucercross.com/lets-start-at-the-very-beginning/#more-1447">losing ways</a></span></strong> during the infancy of our program.</p>
<p>Amidst tears, I would try to encourage the team after one of the many lopsided losses.</p>
<p>We would seek the positive no matter how bad the outcome (<em>and they were bad by basketball standards!</em>).</p>
<p>Often, in their own frustration, the girls would say things like:</p>
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<li><strong><i><em>“We’re a bunch of losers.”</em></i></strong></li>
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<ul>
<li><em><strong>“I don’t understand what is going on.”</strong> </em></li>
</ul>
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<li><em><strong>“It’s no use; we’ll never win a game.”</strong> </em></li>
</ul>
<p>The one statement I could not or would not tolerate typically started with the words <strong><span style="color: #800000;"><em>“I can’t”.</em></span></strong></p>
<ul>
<li><strong><i><em>“I can’t dribble!”</em></i></strong></li>
</ul>
<ul>
<li><strong><em>“I can’t make a layup!”</em></strong></li>
</ul>
<ul>
<li><strong><em>“I can’t shoot foul shots!”</em></strong></li>
</ul>
<p>You get the idea.</p>
<p>The saying which came to mind and is attributed to the late John Wooden, the greatest college basketball coach of all time was:</p>
<p><strong><span style="color: #800000;"><em>“I will not let what I cannot do interfere with what I can do.”</em></span></strong></p>
<p>As a team we adopted the saying and had it made into a T-shirt.</p>
<p>If one was caught voicing the words, <em>“I can’t”,</em> running laps was usually involved.</p>
<p><strong><span style="color: #800000;"><em>Why, at times, don’t we heed our own words or practice what we preach?</em></span></strong></p>
<p>For the better part of the past decade I grew in love with cycling, typically hopping on the bike three to five times per week and cycling anywhere from two to four thousand miles per year.</p>
<p>Currently, I am nearing the twenty-five thousand mile mark since I began in cycling in 2003.</p>
<p>Last year my cycling efforts came to a complete stop due to a leg injury (a slip on the ice) which took nearly a year from which to recover.</p>
<p>This year has been somewhat better, but has come nowhere close to those times when I was able to get out on the road several times per week.</p>
<p>My job search, temporarily living away from home, relocating, and getting used to a completely different work schedule have played a part in the decreased time I can devote to something I truly enjoy.</p>
<p>Rather than do something about it my mind has dwelt on <em>“I can’t”</em> and it has cost me.</p>
<p>I have been consumed with the fact that <em>“I can’t”</em> get out to cycle (I am encouraged if I can get out once per week right now) rather than thinking about what I can do.</p>
<p>The stress levels, formerly neutralized due to the routine exercise, have kept me edgy.</p>
<p>The weight has gone northward. Not a good thing!</p>
<p>The once elevated mood has given way to being stuck in neutral at times.</p>
<p>The list goes on.</p>
<p>John Wooden also said this:</p>
<p><strong><em><span style="color: #800000;">“There is a choice you have to make in everything you do. So in the end, my friend, (realize) the choice you make, makes you.”</span> </em></strong></p>
<p>A choice presented itself to me.</p>
<p>I could continue to bemoan the fact that <em>“I can’t”</em> cycle as often as I once did or I could find an alternative in the interim.</p>
<p>As I said, the weight jumped to 277 pounds, about thirty pounds more than I typically weigh and a far cry from my desired weight in the neighborhood of 220 pounds.</p>
<p>Given I work in the healthcare industry and often read about or am privy to information related to health concerns, it was enough to get me thinking seriously about drawing a line in the sand and doing something about it.</p>
<p>I decided to set a weight goal.</p>
<p>Jackie has been wonderful in tailoring our diet, helping me measure portions, and encouraging me to eliminate the “<em>pound packers</em>”.</p>
<p>Water intake is on the upswing although not where it needs to be.  I am working on it.</p>
<p>I decided to not let<strong><span style="color: #800000;"> “</span></strong><em><strong><span style="color: #800000;">what I cannot do</span></strong> (cycling as frequently as I would like) <strong><span style="color: #800000;">interfere with what I can do</span></strong></em><strong><span style="color: #800000;">”.</span></strong></p>
<p>I did not buy any equipment.</p>
<p>I did not join a gym.</p>
<p>I did not hire a trainer (however, if you can afford to do so this is a great option!).</p>
<p>I decided to walk.</p>
<p>Walk.</p>
<p>That’s it, plain and simple walking.</p>
<p>If you are one who knows me well you know that numbers “<em>talk</em>” to me.</p>
<p>Jackie bought me a Fitbit<img src="https://s.w.org/images/core/emoji/17.0.2/72x72/2122.png" alt="™" class="wp-smiley" style="height: 1em; max-height: 1em;" /> for our anniversary.  It&#8217;s dashboard supplies all sorts of numerical information which whispers to me often.</p>
<p>I have a goal of walking 10,000 steps per day or nearly five miles. I have missed a few days, but not many in the past month.</p>
<p>My friend, Ann, recently wrote a wonderful, information packed article on the benefits of walking. You can check it out <strong><span style="color: #0000ff;"><a style="color: #0000ff;" href="https://todaystheday7weekplan.wordpress.com/2015/09/30/health-and-anti-aging-one-simple-thing-you-can-do-to-stay-young-and-healthy/">here</a></span></strong>. (<strong>Hint</strong>: Take time to link to it as it speaks to your very own “<em>fountain of youth</em>”.)</p>
<p>I walk at lunch.</p>
<p>I walk the two city blocks from the parking garage to my office.</p>
<p>I use the restroom (frequently!) where I have to take a hike to get there.</p>
<p>I park on the 9<sup>th</sup> or 10<sup>th</sup> floor of the parking garage, walk down the steps, and walk back up most evenings.</p>
<p>I now have developed a lunchtime route and walk to the top of the garage to end my trek.</p>
<p>I am avoiding certain foods.</p>
<p>The temptation to indulge has come.</p>
<p>I have resisted (<em><strong>OK, for the most part!</strong></em>).</p>
<p>I have chosen alternative food choices.</p>
<p>I have lost eight pounds (and counting) the past few weeks.</p>
<p>I am on my way to my goal and I am focused for the first time in a very long time.</p>
<p>I am regaining a part of me which I love.</p>
<p>I will succeed.</p>
<p>In short, I have removed an <em>“I can’t”</em> from my vocabulary and I have made a choice to do something about my weight.</p>
<p><strong><span style="color: #800000;"><em>Are you facing similar circumstances?</em></span></strong></p>
<p><strong><em><span style="color: #800000;">Are you dwelling too much on the “I can’t” button?</span> </em></strong></p>
<p><strong><em><span style="color: #800000;">Can you make a choice to do something about it?</span> </em></strong></p>
<p><strong><em><span style="color: #800000;">Will you allow the obstacles to block your path or will you seek the opportunity to overcome the obstacles and continue on your journey?</span> </em></strong></p>
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<p><span style="color: #800000;"><em><strong>Will you settle for Camp I Can’t or will you take the leap into the Lake I Can?</strong> </em></span></p>
<p>Whatever is supposedly keeping you back does not have to do so.</p>
<p><strong><em><span style="color: #800000;">You can make a choice to change the course by exercising your option to be engaged and to say I CAN instead of I CAN&#8217;T! </span></em></strong></p>
<p>It’s worth thinking about.</p>
<p>Do it!</p>
<p><strong>Do you have an example of one thing which you thought you couldn&#8217;t but you overcame to learn that you could?</strong></p>
<p style="text-align: center;"><strong>Photos Courtesy of Creative Commons and Bruce R. Cross</strong></p>
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